When we are going through something tough it can feel as if we are isolated. No one could possibly understand the pain and suffering we are enduring. What would they think if I told them? How could I benefit from sharing how much I’m hurting?
The truth is, it’s hard to open up. It is not easy to say out loud, “I am struggling and need help.” For some, the thought of this gives them anxiety. Sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings can be scary. However, there is something you should know. Being open and vulnerable are strengths.
Opening up leads to freedom. Closing yourself off keeps you in captivity. I hope you feel a sense of relief reading this. You don’t have to figure out all of the answers and solve everything by yourself. In order to get you on the path of healing here are a few tips you can use to better communicate and open up about what you are going through.
Don’t Be Afraid of Your True Self
You’ve made it this far! You’ve decided to take the step to talk to someone you trust. It’s important at this stage to not try to hide or cover up your thoughts or feelings. If you tend to be a people pleaser, this can be a difficult thing to change. You do not need to conform to what you think the other person wants to hear. Your feelings are valid just as they are.
It can be tempting to rush through everything and be done, however, this closes off the opportunity for meaningful questions. Take a deep breath, take your time. Allow the other person to fully understand where you are coming from.
Allow Yourself to Feel
When we don’t allow ourselves to feel we usually migrate those emotions towards something else. In some cases, it may be a healthy alternative. For a lot of us, it can be a destructive behavior or addiction. Allowing yourself to feel what you feel, without any judgment is a liberating choice. It’s okay to marinate on what you’re feeling.
Thoughts are that, just thoughts. We are not our thoughts. This can be a life-changing realization for many. Don’t beat yourself up for not being enough, doing enough, or having enough. You are doing the best you can and that is all you can do! Connecting with others about your struggles opens the door for a deeper more meaningful life and relationships. Take the weight off your shoulders and let someone else in to help you.
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